A Wedding for you or them…admin
Your wedding… you have envisioned this day for a long time now; some girls are working out the details of it while playing with Barbie dolls at the age of 6 years old. You know exactly what your dress is going to look like, what types of flowers you will have, and you decided it won’t be a truly traditional wedding. It’s PERFECT!! And then, family gets involved (to put it mildly), your mother has envisioned you in different dress, since you were born, the future mother in law cannot imagine her son being married in any wedding that is not traditional. And even though you and your fiancé are completely in love with a chocolate espresso cake, a grandmother insist that it be a white cake with a thin layer of strawberry filling, because that is what they have at every event, it is tradition.
You slowly see your wedding, no longer being what you want, but what everyone else wants. What do you do? Do you compromise the details of your special day, or do you go Bridezilla, and let everyone know it’s YOUR special day, so back off!! LOL Well, there is no right or wrong answer; it’s definitely not a black and white, or even a gray area situation. Confiding to an expert, such as your event coordinator, will give you a “sounding board”, and maybe some great ideas on how to handle the family.
“Working directly with couples and their families I often see a power struggle develop when it comes to planning the wedding details. My advice for brides is if your wedding is moving away from what you truly wanted it to be, you must sit down with your contributors and let them know. In my experience, your family really does desire for you to have what you want and don’t realize their involvement has altered the course. Thoughtful communication is key and it’s helpful if you write down what you want to say in advance to you ensure your true thoughts are relayed. If possible it’s wonderful if you can find areas that aren’t that important to you for compromise. Are you not really into the cake and your future Mother-In-Law is desperate for you to use her 70’s cake topper? Give in and use the cake topper and have your florist add some coordinating flowers to make it cohesive with your theme. Also remember your wedding planner is your advocate and can help ensure you get what you want while still maintaining relationships.“ – Jenn Robirds, Owner and Creative Director of Jenn Robirds Events
Bottom line, this is your day, and though you don’t want to cause a rift with family and possibly scar your relationship, it is most important that you communicate clearly.
Congratulations, and Best Wishes on your Special Day.
Two Slices Pie Co.
A very special Thank You to our contributor:
Owner and Creative Director, Jenn Robirds Events